Marcy Carriker Smothers

Twable Manners

I’m not talking about napkins in your lap or elbows off the table.
I’m talking about tweeting while dining.
I like to get my Twitter on like the next gal, but I can’t get past the idea that the dinner table is for conversation and not for broadcasting.
Leaving your cell phone on because the kids might need you – that’s legit.
Incessantly updating mundane details – not so much.
The art of conversation is just that, an art, and I’m put off when my dining companion’s attention is divided between the convo and the Blackberry.
I’ve attended some juicy dinner parties in the past months with guests of honor like Brad Paisley and Kitty Kelley. Trust me, there were ad libs and quips that were tantalizingly twitterable, yet I refused to interrupt our confabulation for the prize of a well parsed tweet.
Lest I doth protest too much, I admit to taking photos of food during the meal. A lot. And while I’m in the confessional, I’ll fess up to having more pictures of edibles than my children, but I don’t post at the table.
My pal, whom in this case I cannot name drop, told me the tale of her dinner recently with a well known wine blogger. He and his team did not make eye contact with her for the first fifteen minutes. With Pinball Wizard skills, they Twittered and Facebooked throughout the four courses. It appeared as if they were more interested in bragging about their esteemed dinner companion than they were with actually getting to know her. Guess who’s not being invited to the next release party?
Twenty somethings think I’m old-fashioned but there are some things in the world of food that are sacrosanct:
Ordering with “May I please have” instead of the repulsive “I want.”
Waiting to add salt until after you’ve tasted the dish.
Marshmallows on the yams at Thanksgiving.
And no Twittering at the table.

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  • Reply
    March 23, 2010 at 7:33 pm

    You are so right. Nothing worse then having a meal with someone and no
    eye contact. Old fashion "Rude"..I love dinner or lunch with someone who love's food and tells you what they think about the food or HOW ARE YOU? What ever happened to passion about friends, food and wine. I think they do this in Europe… TC

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    Rajesh &Shankari
    March 24, 2010 at 5:43 pm

    I completely agree with you on this one. We take pics all the time, but FB'ing and twittering as eat is not something I embrace.

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    March 24, 2010 at 5:46 pm

    what's worse is the whole family on their mobile devices. Mom and dad twittering or texting and the kids all texting and no one is talking to each other. Why bother to even go out to dinner together at that rate. When we go to dinner the rule for kids is no devices on until after we are out of the restaurant. I'm not much of a Twitterer or texter so it's not a problem for me.

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